#StrongerTogether: Linda Tam
Breast cancer is more than a diagnosis—it’s a journey of strength and transformation. In the #StrongerTogether series, we interview inspiring survivors who share their personal battles, from diagnosis to recovery and beyond. These women open up about their fears, resilience, and newfound self-love, reminding us that no one faces cancer alone. Through their stories, we hope to foster unity, hope, and empowerment within the community. Join us as we celebrate their courage and the power of being #StrongerTogether.
Q: Can you please share with me more on how you were diagnosed?
Linda: I was volunteering at the Breast Cancer Foundation as a receptionist. I had to tell people on the phone that under the age of 50, you should do your mammogram once every year, and for ages 50 to 59, every two years. After volunteering for two years, it struck me that I hadn’t been doing it myself, so I decided to sign up for a mammogram. The second year, I received an early diagnosis—I found out I had breast cancer. I think it was all God-planned.
Q: So what were the first thoughts that went through your mind when you were diagnosed?
Linda: Well, I think everybody's first question is, “Why me?” But then you sit down and think about it. It dawned on me that I was actually the chosen one to get breast cancer. You know why? Because I can share my experience with others. Early detection is very important because, among all diseases, breast cancer is the easiest to cure if diagnosed early.
Q: You’ve been cancer-free for 17 years. How was your cancer treatment like?
Linda: Mine was rather simple because I was at stage 1. My oncologist said that there were a few options. I could have the surgery to remove the cancer cells (lumpectomy) and then go on oral medication, or I could choose chemotherapy and radiotherapy. I asked my oncologist what she would do if she were me. She explained the percentages of reducing the chances of the cancer coming back through different treatments, and I decided to take a more aggressive approach.
Q: How did you learn to cope during the treatment?
Linda: The best support came from my husband. Family support is very important. When I went for chemo and lost my hair, I didn’t attend any support group meetings, which I should have. My husband took on the role of support for me, but he quickly realized it was better not to ask me how I was feeling. I learned to apologize in advance for any scolding during that time because of my moods.
"Life now after cancer is better than before I had cancer. Before, I kept everything inside, but after my diagnosis, I decided to prioritize myself. I don't want to be selfish, but I was given a second chance. I started checking off everything on my bucket list. Now, I spend money on things I enjoy without overthinking it."
Q: Looking back, what do you think you would have done differently during your cancer journey?
Linda: I should have attended the support group meetings. Now that I know about them and am involved, I can tell you that they really help. Research shows that joining support groups can double your lifespan, and it helps to connect with others who have gone through similar experiences.
Q: What qualities do you think are essential for fostering a strong supportive community for cancer patients or survivors?
Linda: Empathy is crucial. We need to create a compassionate atmosphere where new survivors can open up and discuss their concerns. It’s also important to have awareness because many times, people are unsure of what to expect after a diagnosis. Our support group is blessed to have doctors attend our meetings to answer any medical questions we may have.
Q: How can survivors who are further along in their journey best support those who are just beginning?
Linda: I can share my experiences, such as how to deal with family and friends in different situations. It’s like paying it forward—if I can do it, then others can too.
Q: What has been the most empowering moment for you when reconnecting with your body after your breast cancer journey?
Linda: Accepting my body after surgery has been huge for me. I had a lumpectomy, which means they removed some tissue, but honestly, that can leave your breast looking deformed. So what do you do then? It's like standing in front of the mirror, feeling like you're less of a woman because you don’t have hair or because your body doesn’t look the same anymore. But hello, this is real life!
The most important thing after being diagnosed with breast cancer is to learn to accept who we are now. It’s a journey of self-love and embracing the changes.
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